How to Get Out of Your Own Way (and Back Into Your Heart)
- Aug 5
- 3 min read
Feeling stuck in your head?
Do you ever catch yourself overthinking every decision, doubting your abilities, or talking yourself out of the very things you want? You’re not alone.
The truth is, the biggest obstacle between you and the life you crave is often… you.
When fear, old stories, and self-sabotage take over, it’s easy to feel blocked — but it’s possible to reclaim your life and move forward with clarity and heart. Here’s how.
1. Acknowledge You’re Stuck (Without Judgment)
The first step in change is noticing the pattern — not criticizing yourself for it. Are you procrastinating, doubting yourself, or staying “busy” but not actually moving forward?
Pause and say:
“I see I’m in my own way right now — and I choose differently.”
This simple awareness interrupts the cycle of self-criticism and opens space for healing.
2. Shift from Head to Heart
Your mind loves logic — but it also loves fear-based stories. Your heart, however, always knows the truth. To reconnect with your heart:
Place your hand on your chest and take three slow breaths.
Ask: “What feels true right now?” (not “What should I do?”)
Trust the feeling in your body — warmth, peace, or relief signals alignment.
3. Identify the Story You’re Telling Yourself
Most self-sabotage stems from a hidden belief like:
“I’m not ready.”
“I’ll fail if I try.”
“I’m not worthy.”
Write it down. Seeing the thought makes it easier to challenge.
Flip it:
“I’m learning as I go.”
“Trying is progress.”
“I am worthy of good things.”
4. Take One Small Aligned Step
Action dissolves fear. The key is to start small:
Make the call.
Send the email.
Sign up for the class.
Go for the walk.
Every small step creates momentum — and momentum builds confidence.
5. Practice Radical Self-Compassion
Getting out of your own way isn’t about pushing harder; it’s about softening toward yourself. When you stumble (because you will), speak to yourself like you would a dear friend:
“I’m proud of myself for trying.”
“It’s okay to be learning.”
“I am worthy of grace.”
Compassion unlocks courage.
6. Create Daily Heart Habits
The shift from head to heart happens in small, consistent moments. Try these practices:
Morning check-in: “What does my heart need today?”
Move your body: Walking, stretching, dancing clears mental clutter.
Gratitude pause: Name three things you’re grateful for each night.
Limit comparison: Take breaks from social media to reconnect with your life.
7. Remember: You Are Not Broken
You don’t need to fix yourself. You’re already whole — you’re just learning to clear the clutter so your true self can shine through. Every heart-led step you take is a step home to yourself.
Ready to reclaim your heart (and your life)?
Sometimes divine intervention shows up as a feather on your path… and sometimes it shows up as a curvy Italian-Polish psychic medium with a mouth from the South — holding space for you to meet Spirit and yourself in the most powerful way.
Book your personal session with April today and experience clarity, healing, and soul-level peace.
About April Roane
April Roane is a psychic medium, spiritual channel, and healer who has spent over a decade helping people reconnect with Spirit, heal from trauma, and find their way back to themselves. Known for her humor, warmth, and no-fluff approach, April’s work bridges the seen and unseen with love and truth.
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